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Love vs. Infatuation Assessment

Jonathan Riley

Understanding the difference between love and infatuation is crucial for maintaining healthy, long-lasting relationships. This assessment is designed to help you identify whether your feelings toward your partner are based on love or infatuation. Remember, this assessment is for self-reflection and is not a diagnostic tool.

Instructions: For each statement below, rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 5, where 1 = Strongly Disagree, 2 = Disagree, 3 = Neutral, 4 = Agree, and 5 = Strongly Agree.

  1. I feel a deep emotional connection with my partner.
  2. I am constantly thinking about my partner and find it difficult to focus on anything else.
  3. I am willing to make sacrifices for my partner’s happiness.
  4. The physical attraction between my partner and me is the most important aspect of our relationship.
  5. I trust my partner completely and feel secure in our relationship.
  6. I get jealous when I see my partner interacting with other attractive people.
  7. I value and respect my partner’s opinions, even if they differ from my own.
  8. My feelings for my partner have intensified quickly and without much foundation.
  9. My partner and I have shared values and similar life goals.
  10. I have an idealized image of my partner and tend to ignore their flaws.
  11. I am genuinely interested in my partner’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences.
  12. Our relationship is mostly based on excitement and novelty, rather than a deep connection.
  13. I believe my partner and I can overcome challenges together and grow stronger as a couple.
  14. I feel an intense need to be constantly reassured about my partner’s feelings for me.
  15. My partner and I can communicate openly and honestly about our feelings, even when it’s difficult.
  16. I find myself idealizing other relationships and comparing them to my own.
  17. I am willing to work through conflicts with my partner in a constructive manner.
  18. I feel anxious about the future of our relationship and worry about it ending suddenly.

Scoring: Add up your total score from all 18 questions.


18-29: Infatuation It seems that your feelings toward your partner are primarily based on infatuation. Infatuation is characterized by intense, short-lived emotions and a focus on physical attraction. It’s important to recognize that infatuation is a normal part of the early stages of a relationship. However, for a relationship to grow and thrive, it is essential to develop a deeper emotional connection, trust, and shared values.

30-44: Mixed Love and Infatuation Your feelings for your partner are a mix of love and infatuation. It’s common for relationships to begin with infatuation and develop into love over time. To strengthen your relationship, focus on building trust, communication, and shared values. Remember that relationships take time, effort, and patience to grow and deepen.

45-60: Love Your feelings toward your partner are based on love. Love is characterized by a deep emotional connection, trust, and a willingness to make sacrifices for your partner’s happiness. In a loving relationship, partners value and respect each other’s opinions and work together to achieve shared goals. Continue to nurture your relationship by maintaining open communication, supporting each other’s dreams, and spending quality time together.

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