Shame is a heavy feeling that can quietly shape how you see yourself and interact with the world. Many people carry shame without realizing how much it holds them back from living fully, forming strong relationships, or feeling peace. This simple assessment will help you see if shame might be affecting your life in ways you haven’t noticed.
Answer yes or no to each question. Be honest with yourself — the goal is clarity, not judgment.
Questions
- Do you often feel like you’re not good enough, no matter what you achieve?
- Do you avoid trying new things because you fear embarrassment or failure?
- Do you struggle to accept compliments or praise from others?
- Do you frequently replay past mistakes in your head?
- Do you worry about what people think of you more than what you think of yourself?
- Do you feel uncomfortable when others express love or kindness toward you?
- Do you believe that if people knew the “real you,” they wouldn’t like you?
- Do you often compare yourself to others and feel inferior?
- Do you hide parts of yourself from others because you feel they are “bad” or “wrong”?
- Do you stay busy or distracted to avoid thinking about how you feel?
- Do you often feel like you have to earn love or acceptance?
- Do you feel guilty or selfish when you take time for yourself or do things that make you happy?
- Do you avoid asking for help because you fear being judged or rejected?
- Do you have a harsh inner critic that puts you down or shames you?
- Do you feel disconnected in situations where others seem to enjoy themselves?
- Do you feel that no matter how hard you try, you’re still falling short?
- Do you avoid being fully present in relationships because you fear being hurt or abandoned?
- Do you feel like you’re living life on the outside looking in — watching others enjoy life while you feel stuck?
What Your Answers Mean
If you answered yes to 6 or more questions, shame may be playing a big role in your life. It could be holding you back from happiness, connection, and peace of mind. The good news is that shame doesn’t have to stay in control. You can work through it, learn to value yourself, and start enjoying life again.
Get Support
You don’t have to deal with this alone. Shame can be addressed and understood with the right help. If you want to explore this further, book a session with Jonathan Riley at My Practice Counselling Melbourne. Take the first step toward a more peaceful and fulfilling life. 👉 Book now: https://mypracticecounselling.com.au/